How to Survive the Speeches

By The Bride’s Avenue

This one’s for the #MAFS fanatics.

Broxy’s “best man” speech. Oh em gee.

Last night Australia’s newest episode of Married At First Sight aired and, yes, while we get it’s reality TV and heavily edited to portray alllllll the drama (and some…), we can’t go past the best man speech by Broxy, at Mick Gould and Jessika Power’s reception. And we’re using the term “best man” lightly, after that curveball! 

Which brings us to a very important topic of conversation. The speeches. They can often be one of the most nerve-racking moments of your entire wedding day, but they don’t have to be. “The original meaning of the wedding speech or toast is to wish the new couple health and good luck in their marriage. ... This, therefore, is the purpose of the wedding speech, to entertain and amuse guests. The wedding speeches are usually the bridge between the formal wedding ceremony and the onset of the reception.” But sometimes, people take the meaning of ‘amuse’ a little too literal. Here’s our top tips on how to “Survive the Speeches” on your big day:

1. Choose people to make speeches who are confident (and appropriate) public speakers. 

While it’s tradition for the best man to speak, it’s a tradition that can definitely be uprooted. Ask one of the groomsman to speak on behalf of the fellas – or even a brother, uncle or cousin not in the bridal party as a special role on the day. And we’re not taking sides, it’s the same story for the ladies too! Maybe you have someone that’s a great story teller (but not of the Viagra style…), a confident public speaker and comfortable with a microphone. Even if they’re not in the bridal party, they can definitely take the speaker role on behalf of the others. 

2. Monitor the content by providing a little ‘speech cheat sheet’.

Click to download your copy below to give to your speakers …because there’s a BIG difference between a story that’s appropriate for a bucks party, and one for the wedding reception. We’re looking at you, Broxy. 

3. Move the speeches forward.

Once again, we’re talking about changing traditions here (for the better). Try having the speeches as soon as the reception starts, or over entrée, rather than waiting for after dinner. Speeches are often better when there’s a little less time for the festivities (aka champagne) to kick in… 

4. Don’t (EVER!) invite “anyone to take the mic” (and make sure your emcee knows of this request).

When you open the microphone up freely to anyone to speak, you have zero control at keeping Uncle Peter away from making an inappropriate or inside joke that just triggers awkward silence.

Got a hot tip? Feel free to leave your ideas for “Surviving the Speeches” in our comments below!