By Sharon for The Bride's Avenue
We are living in the digital age, okay the Instagram age, if you prefer. The thought of having an unplugged wedding seems almost like sacrilege.
If you’re wondering what an unplugged wedding is all about, basically it’s a wedding ceremony where guests are asked to turn off their phones and not take pictures. Can you even imagine it? It’s pretty hard to do that, yet there are really good reasons why couples are now requesting unplugged weddings.
First of all, even though we are in a digital age, more people are becoming aware of their privacy and would rather not have their faces splashed across all the social media sites. But it is more than that. Having guests constantly taking pictures during the ceremony in a way takes away from the mood. You want to look at your family and see smiling faces, people who are experiencing the moment with you, and not the back of their phones.
Secondly, guests can ruin the shot for the official photographer by getting in the way or by blinding the person with the flash from their cameras. It can also be a bit confusing for the couple, not knowing exactly what lens to look into.
For whatever reason, you have decided to have an unplugged wedding. Now for the hard part; how to tell your guests about it in a way that won’t give offence.
Work with your photographer
Offbeat Bride suggests that you should work with your photographer to make a few of the wedding pics available to your guests soon after the wedding. You could share this on your wedding website or via your social media account. But if you let your guests know that they will get pictures of the wedding, it might help them be more understanding about your unplugged wedding.
Include a line in your invitation
Don’t leave it until guests are seated at your wedding to inform them about your unplugged wedding. You should have a line or two printed on your wedding invitation so that they already know what to expect from the get go. Also print it on your programme as well. If you’re wondering how to word it politely, check here for templates you can use.
Place a sign at the entrance
If you are having your wedding at a traditional place of worship, you might not have to stress too much about having an unplugged wedding as most of these places already have signs at the entrance requesting guests to turn off their phones. But even if they don’t, you can always put up signs at the entrance (and inside the venue) informing guests that no pictures are allowed.
Get someone on the job
Have a member of your wedding party or a guest take up the responsibility of reminding other guests not to take pictures. You don’t want to get confrontational, which could really offend your guests. Instead the person can be nice and polite about it. Also if the reminder is coming from a guest, it’s easier to swallow.
Ask the officiant to make an announcement
You could also ask the officiant to make an announcement informing guests that the couple has requested that phones be turned off and no pictures should be taken during the ceremony. The officiant could include something about your wanting your guests to be present and in the moment with you.