Coming up with the perfect song list to suit your wedding day vibe

By Sarah Head Creative for The Bride’s Avenue

The importance of music on your special day should never be over-looked. Live music creates the perfect, unique atmosphere while providing your guests with an invaluable source of entertainment over the entire course of the day.

When creating the perfect song list for your wedding day vibe or theme, the most important thing is to have a clear idea of what style of music you and your guests enjoy, and identify what would best suit your overall vibe. For example, your love of house music might not exactly suit your vineyard wedding setting – so perhaps try drawing inspiration from your venue or wedding stylist as to what style would work best to create a seamless vibe.

Whether it's classical, contemporary, old school or dance/top 40, music tastes can vary greatly, so be sure to select someone who you feel is similar to your style expectations. If you’re unsure of your preferred style, try listing some of your favourite songs or artists to give to your music professional – they’ll then be able to work out exactly what sort of music will have you smiling and dancing well into the night - it’s just one way of making sure the entire day is as perfect as you have imagined.


Arguably the most important aspect of wedding music is selecting your specific songs for the memorable moments – like walking down the aisle, signing the registry and your first dance.

For a unique moment, you could also ask your singer or band if they have these songs on their repertoire to play live, or if you prefer, ask them to play the original version. I would suggest thinking about these songs from the moment you start planning your wedding. They are, after all, songs that are important to you and resonate with you and your journey as a couple, so it’s best to put some time into thinking about your choices. If you’re stuck for ideas, ask your music professional to send you through some example songs (or songs on their repertoire) that you could select from. While traditionally these songs are love ballads (and technically the first dance was usually a 3:4 waltz song), most couples these days are choosing a combination of ballads and upbeat love songs for the big moments, right down to choreographed moves that give Broadway a run for it's money.  Ultimately, it all comes down to personal preference – there’s no right or wrong answer, just enjoy it! And if either of you are cringing at the thought of dancing in front of everyone, that's fine too - just make sure you tell your bridal party to grab their partners (actual partners works best rather than bridal party 'partners' - and saves for much fewer awkward moments!) - so they can save you both as soon as the chorus strikes a beat. There's nothing wrong with filling the dancefloor as soon as possible if that's what will make you both feel most comfortable - you just need to make sure that everyone's on the same page and understand when to join you.

While some people prefer to select unique songs that no one else will use, the most important thing is to choose songs that you both absolutely love and mean something to you – I wouldn’t let popularity deter your song choice at all! If you love it, use it.

The beauty of music is that one song can bring back one thousand memories – so remember, they’ll be songs you’ll cherish for the rest of your lives together. Here are my top 5 most requested songs for ceremonies and first dances during 2016:

1. Love Is Easy - McFly

2. Lucky - Jason Mraz & Colby Caillat

3. How Long Will I Love You - Ellie Goulding

4. Thinking Out Loud - Ed Sheeran

5. Home - Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros